This week, my wife will have an affair with. ..

Books originating in amature blogs are published often in Japan. I talked about "a train man".  And now it' s going to be a manga on comic.  A several days ago, I wrote about "An oppressed husband and his diabolic wife". Well I though it is a funny blog that is a sort of husband bragging about his wife.  BUT! A domestic violence web trackbacked to my post!!! Oh God!! xlkjdfoaieanlksgaioajsfd!!! uh-oh...

Today I will introduce a new book which originated from dialogue on a Q&A message board on the internet for just two weeks or so. The book title is "This week, my wife will have an affair with him".  Yes, this time it is more serious issue. It was started a question at 04-01-28 19:05 which was written in "Oshiete goo = Help me goo" which user helps each other on any question. (I 've used this before for a stupid DVD player's setting.) "Question: This week, my wife will have a love affair. I am going to break into the Hotel where they meet, and I will try to bring some end for this. Is this a correct way?  What should I do there?". He "goahead & Co"(handle name) has two kids and a wife who married 5 years ago after a long relationship. He is very busy with his job, and his wife was always complained about it. He felt something was wrong and sneaked a look at her cell. Then he knew she had a love affair with her ex boss.   He was suffering from it of course, but did not know what he should do because he loved his wife and kids very much.  But one day he found out the date and place they would meet by their mail. As far as he knew from details of information. he could not ignore things anymore. Then he put that message on the board.

In the early days people are stiff and formal to him, but after a while they talked with each other. Everybody sensed his pain, sorrow, suffering then preetty soon started talking seriouly. Some said "you should punch him and get her back to you, that is all." Some said, "it would be time for divorce". Some talked about their own experiece.. and so on. "goahead & Co" replied to all messages honestly, then decided to go to the hotel, but no violence, instead told her he would choose divorce. Then the day had come....To tell the conclusion, they did not get divorce, They tried to, but they could know their true feeling the hard way of this experience. They could realize they pretend they were okay and did not see the problem.
Yes this is all-too-common story all over the world.But his way of talking, his words sounds so real on the board, and in as sense people experienced those hard two weeks as if their own until this Q&A board closed at 04-02-12 15:12.

I read them all. He seemed to be content with his choice at the end. That is nice. Yes the book has a happy end. If I were him?? Hmm always before making a decision was worst time for me, even I chose an end. You know, there is no correct answer, so if you try to choose it, things will be difficult.  Making my mind up not to regret,  that is what I will try.   How do you think?

Comments

[robert]

making a choice and not making a choice are the same thing. I say cover your eyes and swing, if you hit something, bam! that's fate..or you could choose something like the I Ching or (insert reputable oracle here) to guide you, if you would like a more guided understanding. Personally, I would have gotten a little more involved and chatted up my honey before I went on a message board..it's nice to find objectivity in the words of a stranger, but unless you resolve your communication problems then history, like a nagging spouse, repeats itself and if it's not one issue that splits you up, then it is some other excuse. Love conquers all? sounds cliche, but I believe it, but why make Love do all the work? That would have been my advice..simply take ownership and realize it's two people in a communication crisis. solve it on that level and objectivity is never threatened.
Today in Oyaji school we learned about how to choose the proper hair pomade to achieve "oyaji kusai" and how to get free coffee from Starbucks (though you will need to visit a dry cleaners, or wear your slacks inside out upon successful completion of this task). My teacher says I am advancing fast for a beginner Oyaji. I am quite excited!

[Claire （クレア）]

Sometimes I can't make up my mind about something, so I choose not to choose, but it's usually about something stupid--this shirt or that one, so it is inconsequential, and I would rather not waste the time.

Other times, I know exactly what I want, so the decision is easy, like when I had to buy a new car. (I ordered it last year, but it came on Sunday.) I knew exactly what I wanted, so I called the auto broker and told her what color, what option package, etc. Toyota Prius is very popular, so you have to wait to get one.

In the uncertain times, when there is no clear path, that is the worst time for me. I don't like making decisions then...