When I write about the popular guy in Japan, I always have to talk about SMAP. So I wonder Japanese girls and women like such clean pretty cute type guys. I can not say it is wrong, but of course it can not tell all. A ruggedly, harsh, wild, silent type would be the trend of guy preference now. Actually many guys have stubbled cheeks like Ken Hirai, Tadanobu Asano. I think everybody has this cool image for beardie because many big name sports players have beardie, like Ichiro, Nakata, Kitajima (Olympic Goldmedal swimmer).
Some years ago, my friend said her type was a cute boy like a puppy, who would whine and wait for her in the rainy day for a long time. but now she said she likes a guy who looks like he smells a little, (not smell really, ONLY looks). Me? Hmm I must confess I am weak for the guy who looks like stoic and lonely. At any rate, how many years have passed, My favorite guy is still Senna. I know it is hard to be with such a type of guy, but "I want to be the only person who understands him well in this world", such a crazy stupid misunderstanding has caused many troubles ha ha ha. I know I know
You mean Old, Ugly and Fat...er Jovial are not "hot" this year?!...and I have been working so hard at acquiring that look. Perhaps it's not too late to get those stubble implants I have been dreaming of and that gold tooth.. I've heard that's a deal maker. Maybe I just need to get in touch with my feminine side. I don't know how much stock I put into the "ideal mate" thing since I'm pretty sure the idea changes as we change. There may always be that symptom of pettiness or selfishness that persists in how we expect our mate to act or what we expect as interaction, but as far as idealism goes, I think that is malleable. The only time we notice a conflict between the ideal and real is when we are looking on a superficial level. Perhaps the truth is in the details, but I can't help but think if we spent more time observing mates, or potential mates with a more open, honest and less agenda oriented approach we might find that any ideal is a ridiculous limitation in comparison to that person. Look to the base of any ideal and you'll find a matter of simple stimulus. Cause and effect, going beyond that is maturity and the beginning of understanding..not that I'm preaching mind you, it's just been my own experience, feel free to disregard any or all of my words. I think it's okay to have an "ideal" as long as we realize that such a thing does not exist except as a shallow reflection of our psyche....heh, I'm off to K-Mart now to get a pair of Ruggedly Harsh Jeans and Wild Silent type sneakers. ;)
Posted by: robert | Tuesday, December 28, 2004 at 01:17 AM
Carl Jung said every person has an image in their mind of their ideal mate, he called them animus and anima (for man and woman). Every person compares their mates against their animus or anima, and no mere human could ever come close to our idealized image.
Posted by: Charles | Monday, December 27, 2004 at 02:26 PM